.Reasons why a first look wedding could be right for you.
Many people look at us odd when we first bring up the first look. They often respond with: "that seems silly." Or "but it's not traditionally done that way." This is true, traditionally, many people consider it to be bad luck to see the bride before the ceremony. This was set into place to build anticipation for living with and building a life with whom you will spend the rest of your days.
Let us consider this for a moment. Many years ago, it was considered very bad luck to live together before marriage. Now, though, most couples not only live together for years before they decide to marry, but, they have one or more children out of wedlock. So, if you think about it, this tradition is no longer necessary. Also, they way we do things now has changed. It used to be that after the wedding a couple would get one or two rolls (approximately 50 pictures) of wedding photos. Now, most couples have a few hundred photos of their special day.
Now, let us compare a traditional wedding day with the first look. If you decide to do things the traditional way, your ceremony will most likely be early in the afternoon. Then right after your ceremony, you spend about forty five minutes doing family photos. After this, you and your wedding party depart to take bridal party photos. This typically takes an hour. Next, you have an hour of photos with the bride and groom. Plus, if you have multiple locations, you must factor in driving time. While you and your wedding party are galavanting around, your family and friends are waiting around for the party to start. The thing we hear the most from our couples is that they only wished they had more time to spend with their family and friends. They also wish they could enjoy the expensive venue they rented.
The way your day is laid out with the first look is much different. If you start your ceremony at four, then you would have your first look at one. The advantage of doing it this way is that it is private and personal. We work with you to choose a spot that is meaningful and beautiful to you. We set the groom up in a secluded spot with his back turned away from his stunning bride. The bride walks up behind him and taps him on the shoulder. He then, turns around and sees his gorgeous bride to be. Every time we see this, we capture more emotion than when we do things traditionally. Because it is private, the couple feels comfortable to show their emotions. On top of that, it relieves so much pressure, that the groom, especially, is able to relax during the ceremony; we get that "wow" moment twice.
Another reason we suggest the first look is because your hair and makeup are fresh, so you look your absolute best for your photos. As well, if it is a hot day, this timeline is more forgiving.
After the first look is done, (usually, by two) then we ask your wedding party to join us at a previously chosen location. These photos are so much fun.. Everyone is relaxed and having the time of their lives. There is no time crunch, no stress. We take an hour with the bridal party, capturing candid as well as posed moments. Then at three we take everyone back to the venue where they can have a small bite to eat, use the washroom, and freshen up before the hectic part of the wedding day.
Once the ceremony is complete, we take about a 2o min to half hour to do family photos. This happens while your guests start cocktail hour. After, these final photos, you can visit with your family and friends. Enjoy the beautiful venue you spent so much money on and not feel flustered or rushed.
So, when your photography or videography team brings up the first look scenario, don't dismiss it too quickly. Seriously consider what you want out of your wedding day. Either way you decide to go, focus on enjoying your day. Because these moments are rare.